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Hello, friend. I am so excited to be chatting with you today. This is going to be such a fun and profound conversation today, which is always what I enjoy bringing to the Untethered podcast, is I want to be able to have you experience huge frequency shifts and huge radical transformative healing shifts, but why not have some fun while we’re doing it, right? Like, that was the whole point of me starting this podcast, and you may have seen me say this before on my Instagram and my social media, and that is, let’s make healing fun again, because it is fun. And once you are connecting to yourself on a deeper level, once you are becoming more embodied, once you are integrating all your parts for further healing, healing is so freaking fun, truly.

And so I am so excited that you’re listening today. Before we go to the episode and chat all the amazing things, I have to read you this testimony that I just got from a client from this past week in my Expansion Program. My Expansion Program is my premium six month, one on one healing container where we use mind body spirit release, metaphysical healing, energy medicine, bioresonance. We utilize a specific structure to help with subconscious reprogramming so that you start getting out of these feedback loops and you start doing that deeper generational healing work to see profound shifts, not just in health.

I want you to see it in your relationships and your abundance too. And that is what my clients experience. And so, as you know, this is such a popular program that it sells out regularly. I don’t have a large amount of spots that open up regularly and so definitely you want to get connected with me if you are wanting a spot in this program because there’s usually an ongoing waitlist. And so I want to make sure to get you plugged in and have you be able to start experiencing radical shifts with this work.

So that’s it, I got this message from a client and I just, I’m smiling from ear to ear because I just love, I never get tired of reading this and it’s never lost to me how special this work is, helping people just heal and resolve chronic issues. This client is someone I worked with who had just been diagnosed with Lyme. She had been dealing with chronic anxiety, chronic depression, and comes from a very abusive past, and had a lot of, um, trauma happen, of course, like all of us have experienced trauma. And has, uh, comes from a family where there’s a lot of addictive behaviors, and this is really important because metaphysical healing, we’re looking at the deeper parts of the, of what’s pressing here, not just the labels and the names.

You are starting to form your consciousness and your subconscious behaviors before you even come earthside, while you were in your mother’s womb. And even before that, you are taking on the DNA and stress hormones and all of the experience of your mother, even down to your father in the conception period, and so it’s really important to look at all the pieces if you really want to see profound healing shifts.

So we had met and she had said to me that she was just really seeing a huge release and shift with her cycle. And she shared, “After everything we worked through, I felt such immense gratitude to my body for releasing what I needed to let go.” And she said that “I’ve just been combing through all this content that you gave me. It’s providing such insight and clarity in new ways. So grateful. Began working through the new protocol you gave me last night, and I can send some big shifts are going to come out of this one.” And so she said, “Lots of heaviness moving through and out. Thank you for guiding me through this deep healing work. Immense gratitude”.

And that is so special for me to read and hear just because as I said, healing should be fun. It doesn’t have to be all you just laying on the floor, crying from a Herx or just crying from just moving through things. What I have realized the longer that I go on this journey is the more that I see the release as just letting me experience a greater liberation of joy and love and peace and fully stepping into my power and my vibration and what I came here to do and be. So it’s like every release you see a peel back, a peel back of this, this flesh, your, your earthly body, back to who you are. And we were created to live incredible lives. And so it’s wonderful to see people coming home to that. One of the incredible things that clients experience through my Expansion Program and through all the one on one offers and classes, it’s always a priority of me to bring people home to themselves. And so, so excited to share that with you.

And then let’s talk about the episode today. It’s funny. I have been thinking about this episode for months now, and I really should have outlined exactly what I was going to say, but I will tell you my best episodes and my best messages don’t have notes outlining any of that stuff. I just free flow it. I chat it out and I just let it just bubble on out because I want you to be able to hear the raw and the experience. And that often comes to me in a very intuitive and divine way and not in a way that’s structured and planned and detailed and, and kind of what we would expect.

Though sometimes I do have notes and outline and flow for some of my podcast episodes. This one’s not going to be. And also just to, to be real, I, um, you know, my kids were actually a little bit under the weather this past weekend and it just, it just didn’t happen. So that said, you may have seen that the name of this episode is That Damn Couch. You know, what’s funny is I actually kind of maybe took it back a notch with what I was going to say about the couch. Uh, I just kind of made it a little bit nicer with what I wanted to say about this couch, and it’s all gonna come together here.

But the reason that I called this episode that, and why my couch has anything to do with anything, is because I want you to understand how sometimes we keep things in our life that bring contempt and bring disorder and lack of peace. Because we feel this need to just be in the state of victim consciousness and just use it as a place of being the martyr and just not actually choosing to make a shift, even though we always have the choice. And that’s what I want you to understand today.

You always have the choice to make a shift. And this is what so many people don’t understand or don’t grasp just yet. You are going to be able to experience a bit of that just through listening and being able to take away this episode.

But what many people don’t realize is that you can make a choice at any time to shift out of the actual frequency and state that you are in right now. We have just been so conditioned to stay in a place of this victim or this wounded archetype, which it makes sense, you know, with our different archetypes, there’s ones that we, we all have, and there’s things that we act out of when we need to nourish our ego, nourish our more wounded state or our inner child.

And maybe when we have imbalance when it comes to our gifts, if we’re in a state of dis ease where we are not in total alignment, with ourselves and who we came here to be. But let me preface and get to what this couch has to do with anything and that is if you weren’t following me at this point or don’t know this, I have a homesteading account and a page that I built over the years that shares more of just my family and natural healing and homemaking at home because that’s just such a beautiful aspect of my life that I appreciate outside of just business Lindsay, and business hat and coaching hat.

And I, was fortunate, you know, we moved to North Idaho in 2020. We were living in a shop house at the time that was only like 800 square feet of living space, which made me want to pull out my hair on a regular basis. And really just for the sense that I’ve realized, I am just somebody who needs my own space. And I’m somebody who really like the aesthetic of a place really helps me to feel more cozy, more at ease. I’m a shores on human design with my environment. So my, my, my environment is not one that’s specific for cozy house aesthetic. However, I need a lot of natural light and I really want to just feel at ease and peace in my home.

And that goes way back. That’s a whole other episode and story. But it’s important to me to feel that. And so when we were living in this shop house space, especially during the winter, it just literally felt like hell because I felt like I had no space to myself and my kids were constantly just, it’s funny, my, my oldest is more of like I want to stay in the house and you know I can push him to get outside whereas my, my second and third are more like they would take the initiative to to be outside. But sometimes it gets really cold here and my kids are just not in a state where they want to be outside all day long. So that said, I just felt like I did not have my own space and it was just a really small tight space during the winter with just everything that we had going on.

And so what was interesting was during this time we were fortunate to start working on building our more permanent home which we I just have since decided now we’re moving again because we just need better land to utilize for homesteading. But we started building our home to live in and our plan was to rent out our shop house. And we were building this home that was pretty much my dream home. It’s interesting when you are in the process of building a home. If you’ve ever built a home, you know, it literally, um, it’s like birthing a baby. Also, you know, if you didn’t tax your adrenals at some point, you know, you didn’t do it because it’s just a stressful experience. This was stress to the max for me because I, 1. Was still kind of feeling some different patterns that I had when it came. 

And also, I just had quite a challenge between some of the personalities that were on the project and just people didn’t get along. And it was just something I really shouldn’t have had to deal with or handle, but I wound up dealing with it and handling it. All this to say, we wound up getting and furnishing this house. And while I wasn’t totally happy with a lot of the design choices that were made, I also was in the position that I had just had Atlas, my, my third child. And I just really didn’t have the capacity at the time to be doing all the design stuff and being in charge of that and executing that. So I really just had to let it go and just knew, you know what, like we can change this down the line and things shift and I’m just going to be, you know, make, make my bed and be okay with it right now.

That said, there was one thing that I requested that I did not want to have in house, and the designer did it anyways. So, the plot thickens. The plot thickens. And, you know, this is, at the end of the day, I’m not, this is not a conversation about blaming the designer. It’s going to come back to very much what I want you to take away from this episode. But, what happened was I said, I do not want this really high end couch in my house, which comes from this very premium design furniture company where the couches are like at least $10, 000. They are this fancy leather. You might already know what company I’m talking about. And it’s always been a dream of mine to own furniture from this place.

However, I knew I didn’t want to devote my budget to that at this point because I, because I, I know I have little kids and literally like I have tried to hide markers, I’ve tried to find pens. They still have found these things, and they still have used it on all kinds of spaces in the house. And I just know that I just don’t want to buy anything super expensive. Um, you know, as far as furniture right now, because it just doesn’t make sense with where we are in life and my kid’s ages and all those things. So I made it very clear, I do not want this couch from this company. Please find something that is like a lower price, lower tier, just, you know, more durable. We can always replace it down the road.

So, that request was not honored, and at the end of the day, this is no blame on that person whatsoever, because I could have maybe made myself more clear. To be quite honest, so much of that time period is a complete blur. It’s a complete blur, because I was postpartum, and I had so much stuff going on and I was in my certification process for mind body spirit release, you know, it was just a lot. And so anyways, I said, this is the one thing I don’t want, it wound up being done anyways, and it was just a whole hoopla. And I mean, the couch is stunning and the couch is beautiful, but within one week of getting that couch, the writing on it, the markers, all of it, started.

And this is just a rite of passage in parenthood. You just know that a lot of your stuff that you found sentimental or that you love gets destroyed. And it has nothing to do with your kids being tyrants. It’s just really the fact that they’re kids and they’re not looking at this and being like, oh, this costs this much money. You know, they’re, you know, my kids, when we moved into this house, we’re not even one yet and my other one was three, you know? So, and then my oldest was, I think, six. So there wasn’t just this awareness. And so little by little, things started to be written on the couch. And we tried to find pens, or to hide the pens and the markers, but we would just find writing in different spots, and I could never get it off.

And I got to this point where I just found myself just reacting so rash and getting so upset and every time I looked at the couch, I just was mad. I was really mad. I was mad at like that person for not listening to me when I said I didn’t want this couch. I was mad at myself for you know, it comes down to me, right? So I was mad at myself of just like how did I not make it a bigger point to say no to this couch being purchased, you know, why didn’t I stand up for myself more? Why was I not more vocal? Why was I not more clear? So I was beating myself up and then I was mad at my kids because I was like how are they not prioritizing this couch? They should, they should care more. They’re getting into all this stuff. They’re destroying all these things that are mine is very much a, not my proudest moments of parenting.

And it’s fair, you know, it’s, it’s fair what my reaction was. But this continued to go on for months, and, and granted, you know, the couch is not unusable. You know, I have my, my leather CPR I use on the couch. You can cover up a lot of the writing places, not totally, but you can cover up some spots with a blanket or a pillow. And it’s not like anybody who I invited over to my house, it wasn’t like the first thing they said to me was, Lindsay, your couch looks like fucking shit. None of them said that and none of them could care because it’s a couch. And all my friends that I invite over, that I actually hold space for in my life, don’t care about that stuff. And they’re not people that are going to judge me for having some pen marks on the couch.

But I was thinking in my head, it was really taking me in these old subconscious perfectionism feedback loops of like, I’m gonna be judged. I’m going to, uh, this is going to look like I don’t have my, my stuff together. I mean, these are, these are the really low level ego stories that I had. If I’m really being honest with you, and I am, I always am on this podcast. So, and in general, like, it was just, I realized, wow, these were my stories that I held about this stupid couch, was that I felt I would be judged or that something I, you know, really came down to, I lacked the ability to keep it together.

And when I really started peeling back the layers, where the anger was coming from was I had, I felt like I had been wronged and I had been taken advantage of. And if we were going to go even deeper into this, you know, an anagram, all these different things, you know, I’m a rebel personality. I’m somebody who really cares about justice and really cares about the little, the little guy being heard. And so I felt this injustice done against me and it was really keeping me in this victim consciousness of just being mad about the couch. Every single time, every single time that I went out to my living room, I would just look at that couch in just distaste and detest. I was just angry looking at it.

And finally, my husband said to me, he said, Lindsay, we need to get rid of this couch. You hate it. I hate it. It’s just causing us so much misery. Just need to get rid of this couch. And it was just this light bulb moment. I had this, I was mad because I’m like, dude, we spent so much of our hard-earned money on this couch that we didn’t even want. And we wanted something totally different. And now we were at the point that we couldn’t go back and change anything. So, uh, I was saying to myself, there’s got to be a way to clean it. There’s got to be a way to get these things. There wasn’t. The only way to do it was to go back to the company and pay for new cushions.

And it’s like, do I want to pay a couple thousand dollars per cushion of my couch just to see them get destroyed probably a week from now? Again, no. No. And he said to me, Lindsay, we just need to get this, sell it to somebody who wants to do, like, reupholster it and totally change it up. And just, you know, sell, sell the couch and get what we really want and get something that if it gets, get pen and marker on it, it’s not a big deal. And I still, I felt the sense of injustice, like, no! You know, I, I really, because I love the color. I love the style of the couch. And, you know, I, I finally had this settling moment that I said to myself, it’s okay, just get rid of the couch. It, it doesn’t cause you any joy. I have given this couch so much power.

Every time I walked into that area of my house, every time I laid down, and this was, I felt like it went on for, maybe like two or three months that I was just really angry about the couch situation. And then I just really had this moment last year where I was sitting and I was like, why am I so damn mad about this couch? There’s no reason for me to continue to hold onto this story and this just frustration and this disgruntledness about this couch. One, make the choice to get rid of it. Sell it. You know, accept it, right? Accept the fact that it’s not what we thought it was going to be and move on. And two, stop letting this couch that has been loved on and adored by your boys so much that they happen to get some writing and some marker on it. Just stop making this be a point of contentment that you don’t enjoy the room and you don’t enjoy the space and that you are giving this freaking couch power over you just being able to experience comfort in your home.

You know, silly, so silly. You may be like very different from me and listening to this right now and being like, I didn’t realize Lindsay was this, uh, but it just has to do with how much I really want to be just fully enjoying my space. And so that’s it. What I really wanted you to understand today is how, oh, and I should even say, before I even get to that, we’re in the process of moving through these last couple months. We’ve just been enjoying the couch as is, and even though it’s not, it looks like it’s been, you know, it came out of a dumpster from somewhere.

We’ve just been enjoying it because it’s, it’s something that we get to sit on, that we get to make memories on, that we get to enjoy. We’re so fortunate to have it and I still love how it looks in the room. I love that my kids just love to read on it. They love to snuggle with us on it. I mean, I completely shifted my relationship with this couch and I know we’ll sell it and we’ll change it up at some point and we’ll get something new.

My point for you today with this episode is how often are you staying in a place of victim consciousness and deciding to stay in a place that you know is not serving you, in order to feel like you are just meeting this personal vendetta and personal need. When you literally could make a choice to go and shift into a different frequency, a different vibration, a different state. You ultimately have to change your program, your perspective, and your relationship with what you’re so upset about. And I’m willing to bet one of the biggest things you need to do is that you need to forgive yourself. You need to forgive yourself for just allowing yourself to be so wrapped up in something that you don’t need to be wrapped up in anymore. And I see this so often with people that choose to stay in this victim place when it comes to their health or their finances or their relationships.

And it’s just this consistent, woe is me, and it’s, it’s your brain. So I really, you know, the focus of all my work is really acknowledging the beauty and the functionality of your brain and really your heart, brain, mind, body connection, right? Because, you know, your heart is really helping to bridge the subconscious to the conscious here. So, you know, you have to shift your perspective. Because what are you allowing right now as you’re listening to this to keep you in this place of contempt or low vibration or state of unforgiveness or state of resentment. There is something that you are right now and it is time for you to choose to create a different story around it.

Ultimately, it is when we create different stories and we create these shifts, that we’re able to come out with transformation. But that has to happen. That has to happen. And, you know, so often we find ourselves just in these repetitive feedback loops. Really, something that you can just be aware of to just decide like, hey, is this thought process or is this thing that I keep on having contempt about serving me? Just acknowledge what your feelings are around it. Because your feelings will guide you. Your feelings are energy, emotion. Truly, when we’re following the path of least emotional resistance, is where we’re being guided to. So clearly when I was just in this phase of just being real spiteful about the couch, that was not the place of least emotional resistance.

It was actually demanding a lot of my time and energy and frustration and going on Amazon. I can tell you I’ve learned more about potential marker erasing products in, in the past year that I care to. It, it will never serve me again in this lifetime. So I, you know, I can tell you what you need to know, but that’s it. It has no service for me. What did serve me was really seeing that it was outside of my control, kind of, not really. Outside of my control as far as just the couch and the whole just marker, like, that already happened. So your past is in the past, okay? That fucking happened. Your past already happened. You can’t change it.

What you can change is the story that you use moving forward. How you treat yourself moving forward. If you’re willing to forgive yourself for the choice you made moving forward. That is the way forward. And so really just sitting with what comes up and what feelings your feelings will guide you if you are finding your play yourself in this place where there’s a lot of negative emotional states coming up and you’re not dealing with it, but you’re continuing to find yourself in this hyper critical state, hyper vigilant state. Yeah, it’s not serving you. You know that right away. So how to shift out of it does take a little bit of time, but it means also creating the new stories and constructs and, and, and kind of just letting yourself off the hook. I mean, I remember when my husband said to me, Lindsay, like, let’s just sell the couch. It’s so easy.

And I was kind of mad about it for a good day. Cause my, my husband just, things just come so like easy for him. And he just, he just walked right through it and he’s so relaxed. And then I was like, you know what? This is what I love about you. You’re so right like, let’s just get rid of it. Let’s stop giving it so much attention. And you know, it’s funny. I was thinking about it before talking with you today about this and I was like gosh, I have just loved, I’ve had so many beautiful memories on that couch and it’s just been a place that I get to stumble my kids and They don’t know any different. They’re not remembering it. Nobody who comes to my house is going to be like, remember Lindsay’s couch and all the stains it had on it? Nobody fucking cares.

So I want you to think about today. What stories are you, in situations, are you giving a lot of time and energy to that is just zapping your joy and zapping your alignment? Because what people don’t realize we’re dealing with adrenal fatigue, trouble losing weight, no focus, brain fog, hormone imbalance, any sort of ionian condition or chronic illness, you’re devoting energy to places you don’t need to. A hundred percent. Because your body functions off of energy. You are an energetic being.

So, your body is charged by the sun, by water, by prayer, by grounding, by movement, by your breath, by your sleep. So, what are you charging your body with? And what are you giving your energy to? Because the cells in the mitochondria in your body function off of energy. So if you are just devoting a lot of your energetic space to things that aren’t important and don’t matter, okay. So now you understand where you have energy leaks and where you can shift it. Really think about this today. What am I giving energy to that I can really just let myself off the hook today? I can let myself off the hook, I can create a different story, and I can move the thought forward because that is when you see a shift in your body. It’s like your cells and your lungs and all your muscles are like, phew, thank goodness, she finally did it. We’ve been waiting. We’ve been waiting. We’ve been waiting for you to let us off the hook.

Okay. So that’s my message for you today. I want you to really think about where you’re devoting a lot of time and energy. What I tend to see, and I will tell you, you know, just friend to friend here, we’re sitting across from each other having coffee. I tend to think that people are thinking about things more than they are, they aren’t. No, the only person who really cares about your life so much is you, and you don’t really have to focus on all the other stuff. So it’s time for you to step into your own power, and it’s time for you to step into your own alignment, and it’s time to, I don’t know, you might need to sell the couch. You might need to sell the couch, you may need to throw out that thing that’s just bugging the hell out of you. I don’t know what it is, but you need to reclaim your energy and let go of the story. And I know that that is going to be extremely powerful for you.

So some takeaways for you, some things that you can start activating and taking into action right away. And I can’t wait to hear how you see shifts in your life. Make sure and do me a favor, if you aren’t already, go ahead and hop into my podcast on Spotify or iTunes and go ahead and give me a rating. Make sure you’re following. I so appreciate getting to hear people’s feedback and reviews and things that they’re loving and every time that you Give me a rating and you get to share your feedback. It’s really, really huge. I see it as just a really incredible way that I can connect with you and be able to serve you and be able to keep this podcast in just complete alignment. And so thank you for being able to support me. And if you could do that, I would be so appreciative.

So thanks for sharing today with me, friend, and chat soon, next on Untethered with Lindsay Tuttle NP.

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